Nowadays, nearly 8% of couples have more than a ten-year age difference and it’s often the man who is the eldest of the two (source Insee, 2016). This age difference in relationships remains a taboo subject even today, crawling with stereotypes. Cougar women and gigolos, septuagenarian billionaires and young airheads, are expressions that cannot sum up the attraction and complicity between two people of different ages.
Love has no age
Seduce a person who is ten years older or younger than you is it pure chance or a real quest? The key is to have self-confidence and not to give importance to the looks of others.
During the first tête-à-tête, age should not in any case be the only topic of conversation between you. Act as if there were no difference, enjoy the moment. Some will appreciate your 100% masculine gallantry and protection, while others will lean towards your elegance and nonchalance.
During your first dates, do not fear the awkward moments, or the jokes that fall flat. Your personality will weigh more in the balance than outdated memories from another decade. If you become closer and closer, do not take it upon yourself to see your partner as a child or as the mother you would have dreamed of having. It takes very little for one’s experience to serve positively to the other, and this in many more or less playful areas.
The age difference in a couple does not exclude the need for making some compromises. You will sometimes have a little trouble matching your leisure activities, or even reconciling your respective circles of friends and family. Together, you could, on the contrary, maintain your curiosity and discover new interests, hitherto unsuspected. So avoid routine at all costs and seek stability for your couple!
The age difference and sexuality
At first, this age difference can be stimulating for the libido of both partners. The older of the two will rediscover impulses that may have been forgotten in a relationship, while the younger could benefit from the other’s greater experience. The older one, in fear of not satisfying the younger one, may seek to surpass himself, which would energize their sexual relations.
The age difference can also be reassuring. It can be an advantage for inhibited people who would see a paternal or maternal figure in their partner. But there can also be a feeling of guilt. The older partner could feel complex, sometimes even feel ashamed.
Like all couples, it may be that the sexual harmony is not always at its best. This can come from menopause or andropause that occur with age. Measures can be taken to limit the impact of these physiological states. Regardless of the issues you might encounter, communication is important. Together, you should seek solutions, ideas to counter all of this. One must be able to accept the difficulties and differences related to the age of their partner and adapt together.
The years separate you and time will bring both of you face to face with certain choices, such as starting a family, the desire for a child, or certain situations like old age, illness. Keep in mind that while there are differences in pace, they can enhance rather than diminish your relationship. These biological and sexual differences can enrich.
But above all, you remain a couple, a man and a woman who have been able to enjoy their freedom. Your couple has as much right to function as any other, we might say more “classic”.
So, will you dare to start a conversation with her? This is certainly the best approach to consider continuing your relationship despite this infamous age difference…