Does your wife often accuse you of not communicating enough? What should you do to satisfy her and prove your feelings to her? How to dialogue about your emotions and your couple’s life in order to please your partner?
Communication, the problem of all couples
From my experience as a love coach, I can assure you that the main problem between men and women in terms of sentimental life lies at the level of communication. And yet, it’s not just a matter of sex. Indeed, we are all very different from each other and we then have our own way of communicating, listening, telling things, and simply living as a couple.
So when your wife complains about never receiving enough words of love, you panic because it’s not like you. You simply don’t know how to express your feelings and despite your efforts you feel like you’re still causing her pain.
In this article, I share my advice and solutions for effective communication even when you are not accustomed to expressing yourself emotionally. You simply have to fight against your nature and make some effort, but rest assured, all this with naturalness and simplicity.
A woman needs value!
I am fortunate enough to be able to accompany hundreds of people per month and especially both men and women. This is how I was able to analyze a strong need among women, namely the need to possess worth in the eyes of their man.
In other words, a woman will always need attention, love, affection but mostly to feel that she’s the only one in your eyes. Thus, a simple “I love you” or “I missed you” no longer suffices to fulfill her.
No, you will have to express your feelings with more character and that’s why I invite you to always ask yourself “Why?“. When you’ll want to tell her a word of love, don’t hesitate to add a sentence explaining why you love your wife so much, what you appreciate about her and the unique place she has in your heart.
Here are some examples of sentences that can help you:
- “I can’t wait to go home because I love when you hold me in your arms” instead of simply telling her that you miss her.
- “I’m very lucky to have such an extraordinary wife when I see how well you take care of the children“, to replace your simple you are a good mother.
You’ve understood, you will need to add words and compliments when you tend to declare your love to your wife.
I’ve never been in the habit of expressing my feelings…
In this paragraph, I also want to share an experience that I often encounter in coaching. I know how it is not easy for a man to open up emotionally, especially when you have had a difficult childhood with relationships that lacked love towards your parents or simply with a sentimental past that has destroyed you.
It’s never easy to question oneself and to have to open up to a woman when you don’t know how to do so. It’s not ill-will, it’s simply a lack of habit and learning.
At this moment, remind yourself that a woman is not looking for perfection, she does not desire the love confession she can repeat to all her friends. No, she just wants to see you making efforts.
Communicating about one’s feelings is something that can be learned and requires practice. I know it may seem “crazy” or “absurd” but conveying your love requires learning and you will have to start from today.
At the beginning, you will be shy to tell her what you think or feel for her but gradually you will slowly open up to express with more force how important she is to you.
Do not consider this as useless learning, as it could very quickly help you save your relationship and give the love you wish to convey to your wife.
What to do if she is never satisfied?
Unfortunately, sometimes your efforts are not enough, and your wife repeats her complaints and her need for attention. From that moment, you will have given enough of yourself to highlight your efforts to her and ask her for patience and assistance in opening up, rather than making demands.
In short, you are blameless and therefore have the “power” to ask him to change his behavior and relieve the pressure. To achieve this, you simply need to communicate calmly and serenely.
It is together, as a pair, that you can find the solutions to improve your relationship and develop your communication!
I count on you, gentlemen, to put the right actions in place. And if you want to know more, do not hesitate to order a book written by me to help you. You will see that communicating is never complex even when you have never been taught to communicate, especially about your feelings.
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