Are you continually jealous of your wife’s ex? How can you accept your partner’s past emotional and even sexual history? What are the strategies to immediately apply to stop suffering from jealousy and to build self-confidence?
By being jealous and possessive, you are going to push her into the arms of her ex
Before sharing my advice and solutions to stop being jealous of your partner’s ex, I absolutely want to give you a warning. My experience as a love coach has shown me that the more you focus on fears or problems such as thinking that your wife will inevitably go back with her ex, the more likely it becomes.
Indeed, the human brain tends to control all our actions and words. So, if you are only being jealous of your partner’s ex, you will unconsciously push her into his arms, and that’s exactly what you want to avoid!
In this article, I present my research and studies based on the men I coach to help you overcome this jealousy that is ruining your life. However, I warn you: reading this article is a great thing but you will have to determine actions. Because it is by acting that you can perfectly increase your personal confidence and never doubt your relationship again!
Why does my wife always talk to her ex?
This is the first question that’s on the tip of your tongue. You don’t know why your partner is absolutely keen on continuing to dialogue with her ex even though she tells you that everything is over between them? The answer is that it’s simply difficult to definitively close the chapter when we’ve had a relationship with someone.
Be careful, this does not mean that your wife still has feelings for him, but simply that even if the experiences are negative, a human being will have difficulty destroying what makes him a whole person today; meaning, it is very difficult for a woman (as well as for a man) to completely erase a past when there are no “absolute reasons”.
To help you overcome this situation, I recommend focusing on the present moment. Just the desire to make your wife dream will help you keep the spark alive and ensure she doesn’t wonder if her past romantic relationships were more fulfilling.
This can be done through regular outings, surprise flowers or gifts, and meaningful conversations. With a little effort, you can easily make your wife feel that she is the center of your universe and that her presence in your life makes it complete.
How to put an end to this pathological jealousy?
If you believe that jealousy is inevitable, then you are making a serious mistake. It is entirely possible to no longer be jealous, but for that, you will have to make the choice to act in that direction. And when I talk about actions, I really mean a “commando” plan to never let your emotions and feelings take over again.
To combat your fears of losing your loved one, it is necessary to work on your personal confidence. You cannot remain indefinitely in a situation where you do not feel up to the relationship or the woman who is with you.
To work on this “commando” plan, it will be necessary to meet several needs. Initially, you will need to occupy all your free time (going out with friends, new activities, trips, weekends …) but also take the time daily to build yourself (sports, shopping, social interactions …). Before thinking about overcoming your jealousy once and for all, the goal is to become the person of your dreams.
You must act from today so you are no longer jealous of your partner’s ex. If you don’t, you risk creating negativity in your relationship and holding her responsible for the situation. It would be silly to break up because of this situation…